The people who walk into Westfield Mediation, LLC, are not the same people who walk out at the end of divorce mediation. We see it time and time again. Divorce mediation is a transformative process. Each individual person seems to change and how the people function as a couple changes as well. As professional divorce mediators, we see this happen all the time. However, it is hard to convince the people who hesitantly start the process that mediation can work and have a successful outcome. They just don’t see how they can work with the other person. By the end, they are so pleased that they stuck with mediation. While at first s/he thought the other party or their relationship as a couple was just too dysfunctional to be able to work together. But mediation, as a process, helps to transform individuals and couples.
The angry, loud couple is able to be civil and speak to one another about important decisions. The sad, non-communicative person is able to assert him/herself and feel good about decisions s/he is making about the future. Having a neutral, third party involved changes the dynamic of the couple and the process. Mediation allows both parties to have input and be heard. Mediation can succeed in addressing the same issues that you discuss when sitting at your kitchen table. However, when it is just the two of you, the conversation often regresses into that same old fight again. Mediation moves you out of the past and towards your new future.
Mediation can help you focus on all that you agree on, rather than focus on the one or two issues that you can’t seem to resolve. Success begets success. When you realize how well you are doing you are able to tackle the few remaining difficult issues with newfound confidence in yourself and the process. This leads to more success and resolution in all areas of the divorce, (parenting plan, distribution of assets and debt, alimony, child support).
For more information about Divorce Mediation contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com
The angry, loud couple is able to be civil and speak to one another about important decisions. The sad, non-communicative person is able to assert him/herself and feel good about decisions s/he is making about the future. Having a neutral, third party involved changes the dynamic of the couple and the process. Mediation allows both parties to have input and be heard. Mediation can succeed in addressing the same issues that you discuss when sitting at your kitchen table. However, when it is just the two of you, the conversation often regresses into that same old fight again. Mediation moves you out of the past and towards your new future.
Mediation can help you focus on all that you agree on, rather than focus on the one or two issues that you can’t seem to resolve. Success begets success. When you realize how well you are doing you are able to tackle the few remaining difficult issues with newfound confidence in yourself and the process. This leads to more success and resolution in all areas of the divorce, (parenting plan, distribution of assets and debt, alimony, child support).
For more information about Divorce Mediation contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com
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