It is not uncommon for couples to start mediation in very different places. One person wants the divorce more than the other person. One person may not want the divorce at all, not one bit. One person may be angry or very emotional and the other person may be flat and depressed. But what we see time and time again is how the process of divorce mediation and time transforms people. Often the person who leaves divorce mediation is very different from the person who started divorce mediation, in a positive way. Each party was able to contribute to decisions for their individual futures and empower themselves both emotionally and financially. They were able to make major life decisions slowly but surely, until all decisions about the divorce were made.
One of the major benefits of divorce mediation that allows people to make these decisions is that these decisions are not legally binding until you get to court. So, the plan you develop in mediation can be taken for a test drive and tweaked if necessary. The unknown becomes known and you can see if you like it, if it makes sense for your new futures or if adjustments are needed before being finalized in court. This makes the unknown a lot less scary.
For more information on divorce and divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed,. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.