The party who does not want to get divorced did not think so. In their eyes, they were actually moving in the wrong direction. They do not want to be making these decisions about how to live apart and have their children grow up in two homes. They want to be going to marriage counseling and reconciling. I am sympathetic and understand their position. For as much as you don’t want to get divorced, if your spouse wants to get divorced, you will be getting a divorced. It does not take two in this situation. If one person wants it, the other person is forced into getting a divorced. In the big picture it is better to live in a society where if one person wants to get divorced then it will happen rather than living in a society where a person who wants to get divorced is forced to stay in an unhappy, perhaps even abusive, marriage because the other person wants to stay married.
My client is also realistic and pragmatic and knows that all of these life details need to be addressed. They are reluctantly accepting this situation rather than burying their head in the sand and wishing it were not happening. They are making these decisions for their children and themselves, albeit begrudgingly. And they are doing it in divorce mediation at Westfield Mediation, LLC. They are trying to make a difficult situation a little bit easier. By using a divorce mediator, they are maintaining control and having input into these important life decisions. Divorce mediation is scheduled at your convenience, so you can proceed as quickly or as slowly as needed. A divorce mediator facilitates the process of discussing options with their co-parent and promotes a more amicable post-divorce co-parenting relationship. A divorce mediator helps keep the cost of getting a divorce down and the lines of communications open. The client is able to make good decisions, even if they don’t want to be.
For more information about divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at email@example.com