There is pleasure derived from being an independent ME, as opposed to a trapped WE. Hold your head up high as you ask for a table for ONE at the restaurant where YOU want to go, book ONE seat on an airplane for the trip YOU dreamed about, or buy ONE movie ticket for the film YOU have been dying to see. You did it. You are moving on with your life. You are not alone. Many men and women who have been married, for what seems like a lifetime, are now starting a new life as a ME.
You may become a WE again someday, but for now treasure your time as a ME. You have newfound independence, which may have been lacking for a long time. It may take a moment to truly appreciate being a ME. You were so used to being a WE and you never gave it much thought that it would ever be any different. It is just the way it was. Most people say that first year post-divorce is really the toughest, but then they somehow start to discover the new ME that has emerged from the old WE. And they like it.
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