Specifically, 90% of the people talking to a divorce attorney or mediator (they were grouped together in the survey) found it helpful. This was the second highest most helpful group, coming in behind religious leaders at 95%. Thoughts about divorce often fluctuate. At various points in the longitudinal study a “leaning out” person became “leaning in” and vice versa. The point is that talking to a divorce mediator does not mean that you are absolutely getting divorced. However, it can be helpful to gather concrete information about divorce. This can help you decide your next steps. Maybe you return to couples counseling with renewed commitment to make the marriage work. Maybe you begin to make different financial and interpersonal decisions now knowing that divorce is in your future.
At Westfield Mediation, LLC, we offer a one-time 30-minute consult for “leaning out” people. This allows the person thinking about a divorce to gather more information about how the court system works in New Jersey and the process of mediation. We clearly explain the steps needed to officially get divorced through the court system. We also explain how mediation works and how it is different from some other ways of getting divorced. This knowledge can help a person feel more comfortable with their decision to stay in the marriage or not. If they decide not to stay in the marriage, the goal is for both parties to participate in mediation together to begin the divorce mediation process.
For more information about a one-time consult or divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
*William J. Doherty, Ph.D. and Steven M. Harris, Ph.D.
Helping Individual Clients Facing Divorce Decisions (2023, May 5)
MN Couples on the Brink Project
University of Minnesota