Lists can be so helpful. They can guide you, act as a reminder of tasks to be completed and give you a goal to accomplish. One of the goals that most people have when getting a divorce is to financially separate from one another as much as possible. Separate into two household with two sets of bills. Each goes to the grocery store and buys his/her own food. Each pay for the gas in his/her own car. Each pay for his/her own haircuts. What are we doing with the house, mortgage and credit card debt? And the list goes on and on. You eventually want it so that you keep track of your bank account/retirement fund/investments/credit card statements/etc. and what goes in and out of these accounts and I will do the same for mine. But how do you reach this point? During the course of your marriage all of these finances were intertwined. There was ours- not mine and yours.
During the course of divorce mediation at Westfield Mediation, LLC, we help clients address all of these issues so they can make decisions for their new futures. And we use concrete lists and questionnaires to help you. We help you break down these tasks into smaller, more manageable steps over time. Yes, there are choices to make, but you do not have to make them all at once.
There are decisions that need to be made about your children and a parenting plan. So, we developed a parenting questionnaire to help you focus the conversation about these decisions that need to be made. We have a list of holidays that you may want to divide. We have a chart to help you map out a month of parenting time. We have tools for your financial future as well. We created a list of financial documents you will need as well as a financial questionnaire to help guide the conversation about how to divide your marital assets and debts. We also have a spreadsheet and a budget form so you can see your entire portfolio and financial budget in real terms on paper. This concreteness really helps guide the financial decision-making process.
It feels so good to check things off your list and move on to the next task. By the end of the divorce mediation process you will have checked off so many of the tasks needed to get divorced. These tools of lists, questionnaires and charts are concrete ways to help you move from ours to yours and mine. And the divorce mediators at Westfield Mediation, LLC, can provide you with these tools to help you get there.
For more information on divorce and divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com.
During the course of divorce mediation at Westfield Mediation, LLC, we help clients address all of these issues so they can make decisions for their new futures. And we use concrete lists and questionnaires to help you. We help you break down these tasks into smaller, more manageable steps over time. Yes, there are choices to make, but you do not have to make them all at once.
There are decisions that need to be made about your children and a parenting plan. So, we developed a parenting questionnaire to help you focus the conversation about these decisions that need to be made. We have a list of holidays that you may want to divide. We have a chart to help you map out a month of parenting time. We have tools for your financial future as well. We created a list of financial documents you will need as well as a financial questionnaire to help guide the conversation about how to divide your marital assets and debts. We also have a spreadsheet and a budget form so you can see your entire portfolio and financial budget in real terms on paper. This concreteness really helps guide the financial decision-making process.
It feels so good to check things off your list and move on to the next task. By the end of the divorce mediation process you will have checked off so many of the tasks needed to get divorced. These tools of lists, questionnaires and charts are concrete ways to help you move from ours to yours and mine. And the divorce mediators at Westfield Mediation, LLC, can provide you with these tools to help you get there.
For more information on divorce and divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com.