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MARRIAGE STORY ON NETFLIX

12/20/2019

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As a divorce mediator, I watched the movie Marriage Story on Netflix through a specific lens.  Overall it was done well.  The actors are really good, the plot is mainly realistic, and it is only slightly too long. The gist of the plot is that a couple is breaking up and they have one son in elementary school.  They are in show biz and she has an opportunity to do a TV pilot in LA and he is the founder/director of an edgy theater company in New York and his play is going to Broadway.  So logistically they cannot live on the same coast.  They start out somewhat amicable and their first stop is a divorce mediator.  One of my few criticisms of the movie, besides the random singing, is that the mediator is portrayed in too much of a love/peace/happiness role.  *****SPOILER ALERT*****This is done more as a plot mechanism to help tie in the ending. 

The role of a divorce mediator is to help a couple reach agreements about their divorce.  A mediator does not act as a therapist.  There is no delving into their underlying issues or processing the reason for their divorce.  Mediation deals with the practical topics in a divorce.  What is the issue and what is the decision you land on regarding this issue? The process itself is what promotes more of a positive outcome, especially for co-parents.  The couple sees that, even though it may be difficult, they can work together when it comes to their children. Success begets more success.  And people are more likely to follow through with an agreement that they had input into.  They are more likely to follow the terms of their own decisions rather than one that a random judge assigned to them or that their lawyer asked for even though they did not want it (which happens in the movie).  So, couples are less likely to have to return to court for any post-divorce changes to their divorce agreement than if they litigated. 

The divorce mediators at Westfield Mediation, LLC, understand how scary and difficult divorce can be and work with the couple to break down the process into smaller, more manageable steps. The unknown can be overwhelming.  This is why people often turn to divorce attorneys to just get it done, rather than mediation.  This is well portrayed in the movie.  However, what starts out amicably and with the best intentions can quickly spiral into a horrible, expensive, emotionally draining, custody battle and divorce process.  It seems clear in the movie that neither parent wants this and they are a little bewildered at how they ended up there. Even though I think Marriage Story does an inaccurate job of portraying the actual mediator, I think it does a wonderful job of promoting divorce mediation. 

For more information on divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M. Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373.  View our website at  www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com. 

      
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taking a break

12/6/2019

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Sometimes we get clients who want to take a break from their marriage.  They are not sure whether or not they want to get divorced, but they want to try living separately for a while, to see if a new living arrangement will reduce their daily stresses and arguments, and allow them to work on issues in their marriage and family in a healthier way. 

While New Jersey does not have an official legal separation, in our divorce mediation practice at Westfield Mediation, LLC, we often help couples create an agreement for living apart. We work out both a parenting plan and a financial agreement, so that the separated couples can have a blueprint for their new living arrangement and see what works best for them.  

Sometimes, living separately gives couples the space they need to work out underlying problems, and they are able to reconcile after living apart for a while.  And if not, trying out the new parenting and financial plan allows them to see where adjustments should be made to their agreement if they ultimately decide to file for divorce.  Separation is often a good interim step for couples contemplating divorce.
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For more information about separation agreements or divorce mediation, , please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M. Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373.  View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at
info@westfieldnjmediation.com. 
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    Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed.,LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with many years of experience working with couples.

    Randi M. Albert, JD, is an attorney with experience in family law and public service.

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