Finding a good fit applies to most things in life. You have a favorite pair of jeans because they fit just so. You have a best friend because he/she fits with your personality. You thought you had a good fit with your spouse. Well, if you are reading this then that might not be the case anymore, and it is time to find another good fit in your life- a divorce mediator.
While all divorce mediators can address the issues to help you end your marriage, not all divorce mediators are a good fit for you. It is okay to shop around. Make some calls or take some meetings to ensure you find a good match. We mediators have thick skin and are not offended if the relationship does not click and you choose to go elsewhere. But don't give up on mediation. You just need more time and effort to find the right fit for you.
A good mediator can be understanding, challenging and thought-provoking when the situation warrants it. Some people prefer a specific gender. Some people want a mediator with humor to help ease the tension; others want a serious one because divorce is no joking matter. While one client may want a mediator who has a legal background, others do not want to touch a lawyer with a ten foot pole. One of the great benefits of Westfield Mediation, LLC, is that our mediators come from a background in law and mental health. We make sure to keep each other in balance, so you are getting the best of both worlds.
Divorce is a very stressful time in your life. If you are trying to work with a divorce mediator who you feel is not the right fit, then you are adding to the stress. You do not have to make a square peg fit with a round hole. Keep on looking until it feels right.