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Divorce Mediation and Domestic Violence

7/25/2014

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Divorce Mediation does work quite well for a lot of people.  At Westfield Mediation, LLC, we help  couples get divorced in a more amicable, private, faster and less expensive way than divorce litigation.  However, we do not think it is a magic bullet that will work for everyone who is getting a divorce.  When there is a history of domestic violence, the couple’s relationship changes and there is a shift in the power dynamic.  Mediation is not a good fit when this occurs.  One person may not feel comfortable voicing their true feelings about something out of fear of angering the spouse and suffering repercussions after the meeting is over. They may be willing to agree with a parenting plan they do not like or a division of assets and liabilities that is not fair and equitable, just to get the process over and done with without a fuss. 

A divorce mediator remains neutral and is not your advocate and does not take sides.  However, in some divorce scenarios you do need an advocate and someone on your side.  You need someone to speak for your point of view when you don’t feel comfortable doing it for yourself.  While many couples have had bad fights that have led to getting a divorce, something is different when that line is crossed and you are physically violent with one another. 

While you may feel that divorce mediation may still be a viable option for you even with a history of domestic violence, the divorce mediator may feel differently.  And if you do not have a history of becoming violent and have started mediation but at some point during the divorce process you have a physical fight, then the divorce mediator may choose to discontinue divorce mediation mid-process.  If the clients are not a good fit for the process, then it is the divorce mediator’s ethical responsibility to discontinue working with them. 

We are happy to discuss if divorce mediation is appropriate for you.  If so, we will gladly work with you.  If not, we will refer you to divorce attorneys in the area who can advocate for you and represent you through this process.  For more information about Divorce Mediation contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373.  View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com

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Divorce and Retirement 

7/11/2014

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Divorce mediators always have to consider a couple’s retirement assets like pensions, IRAs, 401ks, when helping couples draft a divorce agreement. When older couples get divorced, the importance of retirement assets increases.  Divorce mediation offers couples an opportunity to ensure that both husband and wife are getting their fair share.

The rate of divorce among couples over the age of 50 – so-called gray divorce – has increased dramatically in the past 30 years, and experts expect the trend to continue.  As people age, there is less time to build a new financial portfolio.  Yet both parties may have been counting on a certain retirement lifestyle which will be harder to create when the accounts are divided.  Moreover, the cost of living as a single person is often higher than living as a couple.

In divorce mediation, we go through all of the couple’s assets and debts to create a plan that works for both spouses.  Most assets acquired during the marriage are considered the property of both husband and wife, regardless of whose name is on the account or title.  Divorcing couples need to make financial decisions about their current financial status – what to do about spousal support or selling the house – as well as future assets like retirement income.  By making sure that each spouse understands the whole financial picture, we help them avoid making financial mistakes now that will hurt them down the road.

For more information about Divorce Mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908-913-0373 or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com.  You can also visit our website www.westfieldnjmediation.com.

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    Authors

    Michelle Weinberg, M.Ed.,LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with many years of experience working with couples.

    Randi M. Albert, JD, is an attorney with experience in family law and public service.

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