In divorce mediation, divorcing couples work with one impartial mediator to hash out an agreement on parenting, finances, alimony, etc. The divorce mediator is a neutral party, and having the divorcing couple work together with one person is part of the reason that the mediation process saves time and money. Everything is out in the open. There is no time-consuming back and forth between clients and lawyers and lawyers and lawyers, like there is in divorce litigation.
Sometimes, though, during the process, one spouse or the other wants to tell the mediator his/her side of the story. Or ask a few “private” questions. Or share a secret out of earshot of their soon-to-be ex-spouse.
As divorce mediators, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, we see it as our job to cut off these kinds of “one client to mediator” communications. We explain to our clients that all discussions should include both spouses. Conversations take place together in the mediation sessions or via three-way emails or texts. Divorce mediation is effective only if the mediator remains neutral, and does not even give the appearance of being on one person’s side.
For more information about divorce mediation, please contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, M. Ed., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, at Westfield Mediation, LLC at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.