I am a divorce mediator but not always pro-divorce. I think of couple and family dynamics as a system. Occasionally, the system gets out of whack, but can be fixed. Like when you’re A/C is on the fritz and it is way too hot in your house. It is miserable, but temporary. Sometimes marriages are broken-down, but couples should not immediately throw in the towel on their marriage during a rough spot. Nobody’s life is perfect, so it is normal to expect some ups and downs in life and difficult times in a marriage. The New Year is a good time to reassess if your marriage is temporarily out-of-order or permanently beyond repair.
Counseling with a good marriage therapist can help a couple get out of the dysfunction and return to happiness. Unfortunately, most couples wait too long before seeking support and too much damage has been done to recover to a healthy relationship. Sometimes divorce is the healthier option for a failed marriage. Staying in a bad marriage because you are afraid of all the unknowns that accompanies a divorce or for the sake of the children is not helpful to your (or your children’s) mental health and long-term happiness.
While I am not necessarily pro-divorce, I am pro-mediation if you do decide to get a divorce. I am a realist. I understand that divorce is going to happen for many couples out there. I find it deeply satisfying to help couples make a difficult time in the lives a little more palatable. Divorce mediation is the best of the worst situation. At Westfield Mediation, we gently guide couples through the divorce process at their own pace with no pressure from us. We acknowledge the difficulty of making these important life decisions for their new future and how stressful it can be, while keeping people focused on the issues at hand and not repeating the same fight that led you to divorce mediation. We promote a healthier post-divorce relationship.
For more information about divorce mediation contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com
Counseling with a good marriage therapist can help a couple get out of the dysfunction and return to happiness. Unfortunately, most couples wait too long before seeking support and too much damage has been done to recover to a healthy relationship. Sometimes divorce is the healthier option for a failed marriage. Staying in a bad marriage because you are afraid of all the unknowns that accompanies a divorce or for the sake of the children is not helpful to your (or your children’s) mental health and long-term happiness.
While I am not necessarily pro-divorce, I am pro-mediation if you do decide to get a divorce. I am a realist. I understand that divorce is going to happen for many couples out there. I find it deeply satisfying to help couples make a difficult time in the lives a little more palatable. Divorce mediation is the best of the worst situation. At Westfield Mediation, we gently guide couples through the divorce process at their own pace with no pressure from us. We acknowledge the difficulty of making these important life decisions for their new future and how stressful it can be, while keeping people focused on the issues at hand and not repeating the same fight that led you to divorce mediation. We promote a healthier post-divorce relationship.
For more information about divorce mediation contact Randi M. Albert, JD, or Michelle Weinberg, LMFT, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, at 908.913.0373. View our website at www.westfieldnjmediation.com or email us at info@westfieldnjmediation.com
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